Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski

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Book Review of Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski

I debated for a long time whether I should review this book online. In public. Where everyone can see that I read it. My husband even said, “You’re not going to review this book, are you??” Eeeeek! This is WAY out of my comfort zone to read, let alone review. Plus, this is a VERY family-friendly website. Children may come to my site searching for appropriate books to read. So, I’ll say right up front—children, this book is not for you. Please go back to the menu and search under middle-grade books. Thank you! In the end, I decided to be brave and review Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski because I learned so much and I want other women to also have the opportunity to learn.

Blurb:

A revised and updated edition of Emily Nagoski’s game-changing New York Times bestseller Come As You Are, featuring new information and research on mindfulness, desire, and pleasure that will radically transform your [intimate] life.

For much of the 20th and 21st centuries, women’s [intimacy] was an uncharted territory in science, studied far less frequently—and far less seriously—than its male counterpart.

That is, until Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are, which used groundbreaking science and research to prove that the most important factor in creating and sustaining a[n] [intimate] life filled with confidence and joy is not what the parts are or how they’re organized but how you feel about them. In the years since the book’s initial publication, countless women have learned through Nagoski’s accessible and informative guide that things like stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s [intimate] wellbeing; they are central to it—and that even if you don’t always feel like it, you are already sexually whole by just being yourself. This revised and updated edition continues that mission with new information and advanced research, demystifying and decoding the science of [intimacy] so that everyone can create a better [intimate] life and discover more pleasure than you ever thought possible.

My Book Review:

I’m not going to say too much about this book, but I do want women to know it’s out there and available. I’m trying not to be embarrassed, but to embrace my whole self, just as I want other women to be able to do. When I got married, I was naïve and unprepared for intimacy in marriage. My husband and I tried to learn about it by reading a couple of books, but it didn’t really help…

Fast forward 24 years. Almost 25. I find out about the book Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski and I read it. Wow. Oh wow. It’s embarrassing to say how much I learned from this book. You’d think after almost a quarter of a century of married life I’d have figured things out. Apparently not. Things make sense now! For years I thought I was broken. Guess what? I’m not! Now I find out that years of shame, guilt, embarrassment, frustration, and confusion didn’t need to be. I didn’t know!

Ladies, read this book. Even if you think you have things figured out, read the book! I promise you will learn something! It’s so well written! She has diagrams and pictures along with lots of examples and case studies. Emily Nagoski is a treasure trove of knowledge and research and common sense. Reading Come As You Are has changed me for the better! This book came out in 2015, but I wish I could have read it in 1998!!